Don’t Shrink Back!

I told a few people, just this week, that I think that life is just getting too much for me. I was actually unloading finally and admitting defeat.  I’ve been  keeping a low profile and staying away from stress because I just can’t deal with it these days.  So many things just seem too overwhelming.  I am sure I have PTSD over a few happenings.  And just felt like, at 67…I’m done.  I guess that’s it for me. I am still going to my 13 hour a week job but that seems to be my outer limit.  Nothing else.  I mean what happened to 65 being the new 50?
Driving takes it all out of me.  I can drive.  I know how to drive.  I know my way around the city and I’ve never shied away from freeways or long distances but lately….it all seems too much,.  Especially with the winter weather.  I am terrified of snow and ice on the roads.  I’ve made detours through residential areas where I can drive 30 klicks because I am in school and playground zones….just to get to work.  And that’s in daylight.  Forget about under the cover of darkness.  I get disoriented. And then there[‘s the boogie man….
I’ve said no to all extracurricular side hustles involving baking and sewing and anything.  I don’t want the responsibility.  I don’t want people counting on me for anything in case I have to let them down.  I want to be able to come home from work and do nothing if I want and not feel guilty because I should be baking so and so’s cake or fixing so and so’s dress or recovering someone’s couch etc. I just can’t deal.
Even walking around the neighborhood this summer freaked me out sometimes.  I got my steps in close to home.  If it was too windy I started feeling dizzy and unbalanced.  If it was too bright it seemed to affect my vision.  I didn’t even want to be responsible for the dog but I couldn’t get anyone to understand that so I took the pooch with me but I always had my phone handy.
I feel safest when I am lying in my bed at night. Barring a sink hole underneath the house….. I am usually trying to make up a reason to go to bed at 6:30pm because I am done with the day.  But of course, I can’t or I’d be up at 3 a.m. ready to start the next day. When I’m all warm and snug in my bed at night I breathe a sigh of relief and thanksgiving that I made it through the day without incident and then pray I wake up in the morning.
Pathetic.  I know.  The point of this dismal disclosure is this.  I was doing my One minute pause  this morning (John Eldredge app) and I actually do the 17 minute pause because there’s no talking in the background.  It’s a meditation practice to make it easier to spend time in His presence.  I have found it to be very comforting and helpful.  I desperately need to spend time in His presence  just giving everything and everyone to Him.  This morning I decided to not say anything and not pray anything…there seems to always be something going on in my head but I tried to just not think about anything and instead I asked God to speak to me.  I just said…I am just going to sit here and listen and I hope you will speak to me about something.  A few seconds later I started remembering the  ‘crisis’ in my life that I have made it through…victoriously.  Experiences that I thought would literally do me in…but here I still am.  Then I started to remember crazy, fun  occasions that I had planned for my family members and friends.  I remembered the showers I hosted.  I remembered family reunions I had planned.  I remembered trips I had made happen. I remembered Christmases I had organized.  I remembered my successful baking business I ran  for 7 years.  I remembered the dessert buffets I had set up for fundraisers and friends.  I remembered the 35 dozen butter tarts and 70 pies I had been commissioned to make for someone’s celebration of life. I remembered some of the vacations I had been on in tropical settings. The Bible studies and prayer groups I had set in motion during my post Bible college years. The craft sales I hosted in my home.  The clothes I had sewn for people  The cards I had made and posted to encourage friends and family. The many crazy ideas I’ve had that my friends said…you’re insane that will never work but ….usually did. Then I was reminded how bold I have been in fashion and decor.  Breaking all the rules and just doing my own thing.  Having fun.  Not that that helped anyone but it was just a statement that I used to be bold and crazy and up for almost anything. I used to invite people over for teas and dinner and parties….and go all out to make people feel blessed because I loved doing it.  It was a lot of work but I thrived on it.  These are the things that fed my soul.  The jobs I’ve held and faked my way through.  Being an office manager and executive assistant with no formal training.
I mean I have always been a more cautious person in many ways.  not wanting to break rules.  Being compliant to authority.  Being responsible.  I’ve always considered the consequences of my own actions. And I have always had an element of fear sitting on the back burner.  Usually just enough to keep me out of trouble.  But lately it seems to have turned into a fire breathing dragon.  And has paralyzed me.
Then I heard the words, this morning….clear as day…after I asked God to say something to me and He reminded me of all the above…..  DON’T SHRINK BACK.  Don’t Shrink Back Now.  Then the verse from Isaiah 43  “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.  When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you;  when you walk through the fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you….Then Isaiah 40:31 “They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength.  They shall rise up on wings as eagles.  They shall run and not get weary, they shall walk and not faint….
Don’t Shrink Back Now.
Our pastor used to always say at the end of his sermons.  What is God saying to you?  and What are you going to do about it?  Two very important questions.
I know what God is saying to me….now I just have to figure out what I am going to do about it.  Joshua 1:9  Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go”. 

Beware the Oodie

Beware the Oodie.  No it’s not a sea monster. Not the  Sasquatch. Not a zombie.  Not a ghost. The Oodie is basically a blanket you wear.  It has sleeves and a hood and a kangaroo pocket.  Made of fleece. Lined with fleece. Comes in very many cute motives.  Coffee,. Avocados. Sweettarts.  Pizza. Space.  Harry Potter etc.  But….I think it is made for people that have absolutely no life. Because that’s what happens when you put it on.  You become the laziest person on the planet.  It’s too bulky to do anything in.  You can’t cook in it.  You can’t vacuum in it.  You can’t iron clothes in it. You can’t sew in it.  You’d never paint in it.  You definitely cannot garden in it.  It’s the quintessential outfit for being sick.  You put it on and then find a comfortable chair to flake out in and that is where you’ll stay.  You won’t even want to move.  I sat there in my oodie thirsty for hours because I couldn’t bear to move.  I pulled that fleecy hood up around my phlegm-filled head and stuffed the kangaroo pockets with tissues and lay there in a coma for days.  LOL.  I did have to take it off to go to bed because it’s too warm and bulky to sleep in comfortably…laying down.  Easy to sleep while sitting in a chair.  It is very dangerous to put it on when you come home from work.  It feels SO good but forget about accomplishing anything that evening.  Maybe you need to do some of your todo list first and then put on the oodie. It’s like a superhero outfit.  Well actually it’s the opposite of a superhero outfit.  First off there is no room in a phone booth to change into it.  But in reality you turn into someone with very lame powers or virtually no power at all.  Once on,  the fleece consumes you and you give into it. You’re helpless against its lazy power. Its comfy power.  Its procrastination power.  Once again you are inside the womb.  It does give a sense of false security.  It feels safe.  But is it really?  All that fleece is probably highly inflammable. But, I digress….Don’t get me wrong.  I love this thing.  This hoodie. This sack of warmth and joy and comfort. It’s just very dangerous for anyone with any ambitions at all. I’m not putting it on tonight because I have things to do.  But maybe this weekend when the temperature plummets and the fireplace is lit and there’s a good stack of books and magazines within arms reach. And the remote control…  And maybe a drink and a snack….

JANUARY

For so many of us living in the Northern hemisphere – the far northern hemisphere –  January is a month that most wish didn’t exist.  That it wasn’t even on the calendar.  Some folks flee the country for warmer places to live out the winter.  Those cold dark months of overdressing and treacherous driving and snow shovelling behind them.  Yes, the days are short which actually creates a mindset of not getting much done because we don’t have much daylight but….there are still 24 hours in the day.  Don’t be fooled by illusions.  Some just want to hibernate…let’s just endure until it’s over. But we are wasting valuable time people.  Life is short, let’s not just wish certain months away.   What if we had a paradigm shift and started seeing and using January as a month of opportunity.  There are so many months that are too busy to do the things we dream of and love.  We are just go go going and we feel jipped that we don’t get to do things we want to do.  Let’s use January for that.  I mean, if your dream is to visit  the Caribbean then I guess January is your month.  But for those of us that don’t have that option…better to change our mindset than whine and complain.   It is what it is.  January can be a month for enjoying slow living.  Catching up on our reading.  Engaging in our indoor hobbies.  For someone like me…I can knit and paint and write and sew.  I can cook my way through a new cookbook and discover some cozy new recipes.  I can send out New Years cards (that were originally supposed to be Christmas cards).  Actually it would be great if Christmas was at the end of January.  We’d have all that extra time to get ready and to enjoy the season.  And the bleak midwinter would pass by quicker.  Who says we can’t just enjoy the season anyway?  I’m taking my real Christmas tree down to avoid a  fire hazard but I am just going to enjoy the seasonal decor a while longer.  The garlands and the mini lights.  The reds and the greens.  The hygge.  There are no Christmas police.  But if you really want to get it down,  then this is a great month for cleaning, purging and organizing.  A great month for construction or renovating.   A great month to rearrange the furniture or redecorate with what you already have.  Get creative. If you’re an outdoor enthusiast then go skating and skiing and cross country skiing and come home to enjoy a nice warm stew, a hot bath, a nap by the fire. January, as we all know, is a great month for reflection and implementing change. To spend time deep thinking and planning and goal setting. It’s not a month to endure.  It’s valuable time and lets make the most of it.  And while you’re at it….do the same in February.  Before you know it will be spring and time to start thinking about the garden and the cottage and longer days and warmer weather. I actually love that I live in a place that has seasons but that’s a blog for another day.

And she Pondered all these things in her Heart.

So it’s the New Year and I’ve been contemplating what I will do differently this year.  I have to do something different.  The definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect different results. And I’m certainly not insane! Or am I?
 I thought about quitting ironing my sheets so I would change them more often but I can’t quit ironing my sheets, I went out and bought all 100% cotton so I would have to iron them and I would feel like I’m staying at a hotel (for the first couple of nights anyway).  I was thinking I should clean my bathrooms more often.  Oh how I hate cleaning bathrooms.  That’s how I know I definitely do NOT need a larger house even though I lust after gorgeous mansions in better neighborhoods.  But It would be filthy.  So scrap that.  I should quit taking my iphone to the bathroom.  I spend far too much time there.  TMI  however the amount of people I KNOW  who have dropped their phones in the toilet tells me this is more common than people would like to let on. I should quit putting  my iphone within arms reach of my bed too.  I’ve got to break that addiction.  I should quit buying overpriced drinks at my favorite coffee shop.  Why is it my favorite coffee shop anyway?  I don’t even drink coffee.  I need to quit procrastinating with chores.  When I actually do them,  I’m usually finished quicker than I anticipated and there is such a sense of satisfaction.  I blame it on my low level ADD (no H because I am not in the hyper category)…sometimes I wonder if it actually is higher than low level.  Self diagnosis from reading a ton of books on the subject.  I don’t drive in the dark anymore….I don’t think I am going to change that.  I just really don’t like driving in the dark.  I get lost sometimes.  No I don’t have alzheimers but I DO have brain damage.   Hopefully they are not exactly the same thing. I also don’t care to drive in the snow or the rain or when the suns shining. I need a chauffer. I should stop subconsciously doing dishes.  I go to the kitchen for a drink and I start doing dishes and I don’t even know I’m doing them.  My kids say….we are planning on doing those when we are finished eating.  I should quit prying the plates out of their hands while they are scoopng their last bites. I should quit vacuuming so much.  The vacuum cleaner terrorizes the dog.  But I have black rugs and dark hardwood and cannot stand to see the crumbs and threads and so I vacuum.  (Not the same as cleaning the house).  Vacuuming is an obsession.  I have a visual OCD.  Things need to look neat at all times – not necessarily clean.  There is a difference.  There are days my home looks nice and tidy – everything in its place – but it could be condemned as a health hazard in reality.  I really need to quit buying T-towels and puzzles and cookbooks. And coffee mugs.  Did I mention I don’t even drink coffee?  I need to stop saving every birthday, greeting, christmas and anniversary card anyone in the house has ever received?  What’s that all about?  I did not buy any after Christmas ‘on sale Christmas decorations’ this year as I didn’t use half of what I already have.  In fact, a week before Christmas I sent my husband to goodwill with 2 or 3 bins of Christmas stuff I never need to use again.  Not to get too proud of myself….I have a long way to go. I should quit coming home from work and plopping myself in my favorite vegetative state chair because once I do that…I may as well go to bed…nothings getting done that night.  Very often I will pull into the garage and have a nap in the car….at least I have to get out of the car and into the house so that breaks my comatose state and I can go on to do things.  AND I should stop binge watching Netflix and quit being bored.  It’s a state of mind.  I have oodles of interesting and productive things to do.  Oh my gosh….Pinterest.  Lexie came home from London when she was in WYAM a million years ago and said “mom, I’ve found a great new way for you to waste time”.  She wasn’t wrong.  I blame her.
Some things I should do.  I should finish knitting my sweater ( I took up knitting last year) . I only have half a sleeve to go. And then start the next sweater which I already bought the wool for.   I should finish my Cathedral windows quilt and hang it on the wall.  I should finish all my quilts and do something gratuitous with them.  I should spend more time reading.  More time reading means more inspiration for writing and I DO need to get my book written while I still have the brain power. I AM going to purge AGAIN.  Purging is my life.  The more stuff you own the more time to spend purging, cleaning, organizing, stashing – it’s stressful.  I look at all these craft supplies and fabric and while it used to get me excited and inspired…now I just get tired looking at them. I really do want to simplify.  I need to get rid of clothes.  I don’t buy clothes because I need them or the old ones wore out.  I buy them because I think “This will make me look cool”.  But really…do they?  They just make me look like an old lady pretending to be Taylor Swift so that has to stop.  I only have so many places to go to wear clothes because when I’m at home I am usually wearing PJ’s or hoodies and leggings.  I don’t have an office job anymore so ….get with the program.  I save old clothes because I think I will remodel them.  Where do I think I am going to wear them….to the basement to binge watch Netflix? And of course I have a full range of sizes because my weight…. errr… fluctuates.  Then there is my walking pad that I received as a Christmas gift.  Got to get on a regular walking program to keep myself alive.  I call it “walk for life”.  I should and must go off sugar. Unfortunately there’s no Betty Ford clinic for that.  But seriously….. how hard could it be?   Rolling on the floor laughing.   I’ve always wanted to read the Bible in a year…..I mean just bite the bullet already and do it. That could be transformative. Even if it takes me two years to read the Bible in a year… I should do it. It’s not going to be harmful.
I don’t call these ‘resolutions’  because that sounds like a recipe for failure. I like to think of them as wise suggestions.  Self care.  Free therapy.
And she pondered all these things in her heart.

OY VEY

I don’t know about you but I go back and reread my journals sometimes.  A practice I think I’m going to quit.  It seems as I read them….I am still stuck in the same place.  And I think…what is the matter with you woman?  Why have you not moved on yet?  Why have you not conquered these things?  Why are you still in the same place?  Like the Israelites in the desert for 40 years.  Why were they still in the desert when it was supposed to be an 11 day trip?  Well….It was their own fault.  AND maybe God needed to teach them a few things?  Ya think?
Maybe He needs to teach me a few things and I am just being totally lazy and dumb.  I don’t want to be in the desert forever….eating manna and parched.  Rubbing the sand out of my eyes and nursing cracks in my heels.  I’d really rather be in the lush promised land of milk and honey and water falls and fresh fruit.  Walking through the lush grass in my barefeet.  Having learned all the lessons of wisdom and bravery.  That’s where HE wants me to be.  But for some reason, I’m lollygagging.  Is it because I’m having so much fun in the desert?  A resounding ‘no’.  Oh, its had its moments…just like the Israelites…they had some ups…just enough to keep them going and thirsting for more of God’s provision and protection.  But they were easily distracted and disillusioned.  And I guess I get that way too.  We live in the present circumstances and try to do what we can on our own to improve things and fail…when we could be keeping our eyes on Him instead and trusting Him because he is everything we need and want. And yet…..we keep taking our eyes off Him and thinking somehow we can do things better ourselves.  Well at least, that’s what I tend to do.  Why do I have SO much confidence in myself when I keep failing and messing things up?  It’s not because it’s so much fun.  I’ve got to give my head a shake.
So…this year I am determined to ‘get it’.  At least better than I have been.  I am old enough to have gleaned more wisdom. Maybe that IS why I am inspired to go back and read old journals so I can be aware that I need to make more progress.  I know there is no condemnation in Christ Jesus…but hello?  Everything we do down here matters for eternity and I am now closer to the end than I am to the beginning.  I can’t waste anymore time.  Then again, maybe the things I want to achieve and accomplish and overcome are not the same things on God’s list for me.  Maybe those are my ‘ things’  My hang ups and maybe that’s not where I am supposed to concentrate my efforts.  Maybe those things aren’t important in the big scale of things.  And God doesn’t want me getting tripped up by those self imposed ‘goals’.  It doesn’t do any good to make it to the top of the ladder only to find out its leaning on the wrong wall.
So I guess this year I’ll ask God what HE wants me to do.  What He wants me to focus on.  What He wants me to conquer.  I’ll ask for His guidance and His help and His provision and listen for His voice.  So before I make that New Years list, I am going to do a lot of praying and listening and hope that the words and goals that come out of my pen are His…for me. Not that I haven’t prayed about this before….but I usually pray that God will help me accomplish MY goals.  I’ve prayed that He would get me to where I want to be in life.  So this year….I will ask what He wants me to do and where He wants me to be and for Him to help me do His will for my life.
What can I say?  I’m a slow learner.  I’m an Israelite.  That’s why that  story is in the Bible.  And I’ve often wondered how they could be so stupid.  Oy Vey

 

Merry and Bright

As I was listening to Roger Whitaker soulfully croon White Christmas the other day the words ‘Merry and Bright’ stood out to me for the first time. I’ve noticed Merry and Bright on everything these  past few years.  Sweatshirts, coffee mugs,  cushion covers, ornaments. And I thought it was just a kitschy new commercialized slogan to make money.  (Or course, it actually is ).
But Roger sang that song like a prayer and as he was casting a blessing on the listeners, he sings ‘May your days be merry and bright’. We’ve sung those words a million times.  Bing and Dean and Perry and Mel and Ella and Frank and Michael but they’ve never really pulled on the heart strings until I heard Roger’s sincerity sing them.
May your days be Merry and Bright and may all your Christmases be white. I’m signing my Christmas cards with those words now that the postal strike is over.  Having a white Christmas is obviously the quintessential Christmas wish. Christmases are supposed to be white.  That’s the standard. Amy Grant sings ‘I know there’s more snow up in Colorado than my roof will ever see but a tender Tennessee Christmas is the only Christmas for me’. That may be so but seriously, is there anything that makes one’s heart leap for joy more than when it starts snowing on Christmas Eve?  And you wake up Christmas morning to a pristine blanket of white over the earth. (At least on the earth in your vision.)
I mean, my sister who lives in New Zealand,  tries to tell me there’s nothing better than spending Christmas on the beach with the sand and the waves and a BBQ’d turkey but I’m not buying what she’s selling.  This scenario definitely can find a place in my life. By all means…. But not at Christmas.
May your days be Merry and Bright and May all your Christmases be white.  Truly.

Oh Christmas Tree

Oh Christmas tree… oh Christmas tree… how lovely are thy branches. Tis the season of evergreens. The boughs. The garland, the trees. The scent.  I remember going to chop down a tree many Christmases when  I was young and lived at home. But then faux trees became vogue. They aren’t without their pros. You can put them up earlier. You can use the wired branches to hold ribbon on the tree. You can hang heavier ornaments on them.   And they were considered less of a fire hazard. Back in Victorian days they actually put candles on their live trees for lights. What did they expect?  Isn’t that a recipe for a forest fire?
I had already left home by the time this story happened, but my two youngest brothers , still in school, decided they would go get the family tree and headed out with dad’s old rusty hand saw. Apparently they came back with quite a nice tree and were pretty proud of themselves until mom and dad found out they cut it down out of the neighbor’s yard.
Once I was married and had left home, prelit trees came out. Oh the frustration that was alleviated. Untangling all those Christmas lights nearly broke up some families in the season of peace on earth and goodwill to men.
When my kids were young I was a proponent of the faux tree. Especially since I decorated at least three of them spread across the house. One in the family room. One in the kitchen. One in the living room. One in each kids bedroom. Smaller ones…. Ok that’s more than three.  I usually started with the trees and any other decor was inspired by those.   And let me tell you there WAS  other decor.  And with a  faux tree I was able to put it up on November 12th or sooner….shhh.
But then I got a notion that we needed real trees. Maybe reading too many nostalgic Victoria magazines. So we went and cut down our own tree a couple of Christmases. I registered for a permit online and off we went. With blankets and snacks and hot chocolate and an axe. I even think we borrowed a friend’s red truck one year and my cousins another. How perfect was that?  Going and chopping your own tree is fun and all but the coordinating involved to make it a family event got to be too much so now we just go to a local tree lot and pick out the tallest, fastest tree we can get within our budget.  I know not very nostalgic but it gets the job done and makes the house smell fresh and piney so… mission accomplished.
Then comes decorating  the  tree. I’ve actually never been one to cover our tree in handmade kiddie ornaments.  Maybe because they hardly made any…. And mostly because I like the tree to look like the magazine. Full disclosure. I want it to look like Victoria’s Magazine minus the real candles.   Or Country living trees, or Pottery barn trees.. Everyone seemed to be ok with it. When I had tree trimming parties for the family, the kids and Mike ate the turtles and drank the eggnog and inhaled pizza and were quite ok for me to do my own thing with the tree.  I try to change it up every year.   I read a meme online and it said “I’m a better person with a Christmas tree in my living room” and I had to agree.  If there is a Christmas tree in my living room then that means its Christmas and I AM a better person at Christmas…most of the time.  I try to be and I do try to honor Christmas in my heart and try to keep it all the year.  I’m trying to get to that place where I am a better person even without the Christmas tree.
Maybe we haven’t saved a lot of nostalgic homemade ornaments but the kids are still involved. This year I find my house full of dried orange garlands courtesy of Lexie and LEGOville courtesy of Andrew.  Decking the halls truly is a family affair. Plus Lexie decorated the tree this year. I just stood by and … well, actually let her do it. It’s gorgeous.

Well, it’s November 25th.  One month until Christmas day.  But not one month until Christmas.  Christmas is now.  I’ve written this before,  but I feel I need to give us a gentle reminder to start enjoying the season.  This beautiful season of peace, joy and hope. I was thinking of the people that literally do not celebrate Christmas.  For them it is not about Jesus’ birth.  They don’t believe that happened.  How sad that they miss out on all the blessings, love, hope and assurance  that Jesus wants to give us.  He’s running after us with these things.  He’s in hot pursuit. And so… since Christmas is one of the Christian holidays that is pregnant with meaning (see what I did there) for those of us that believe,  we should be the best at celebrating it.
There are also a lot of people celebrating Christmas that don’t actually know what it means.  They think it’s the gifts and the food and the clothes and the parties and the trips and the stress….and the loneliness. And so they get all caught up in finding the perfect gift for someone or everyone.  They stress over food and entertaining.  They spend money they don’t have to impress people they don’t know or at least, don’t really care about. Some go on trips to get away from it all..all the hoopla.  Bah Humbug.
Why did God send his only son, Jesus, into this dark and scary world?  Because we needed Him.  And they shall call His name Emmanuel….which means ‘God with us’.  God knew we needed Him to be with us.  He knew we needed a tangible presence.  As a Christ follower,  I can feel His presence.  And I humbly admit, I need it.  I need Him.  I read something on Instagram that asked the question, ‘Can you go to Heaven without the Holy Spirit?” and the response was “Bro, you can’t go to Walmart without the Holy Spirit”.  Funny cause it’s true.  Many people DO go to Walmart without the Holy Spirit and it shows.
I know Christmas is difficult for many people that are alone or in poverty or sick or dying.  But it’s up to us to make Christmas better for them.  Who else is going to do it? And remind them that Christmas is just the starting point of all this “God with Us”.  It’s not the end. And they can have everything Jesus is offering and that’s the best gift of all.
Often we give money to the Salvation Army or go fill shoe boxes an Samaritan’s purse or serve food on Christmas Day at a soup kitchen.  Some people actually adopt a needy family and make Christmas so special for them.  And these are all amazing things to do. I love the quote by Charles Dickens “I will honor Christmas in my heart and try to keep it all the year”.  Now that’s what I am talking about.
I’ve given myself over to contemplating Advent. Advent actually means hoping and waiting for something that’s coming. And I don’t think it has anything to do with Amazon. Even though, that’s where I get most of my Christmas shopping done.  I digress.  What are we, in this present age, hoping for?  I’m hoping and waiting for Christ’s return.  On that first Christmas they were waiting for him to come for the first time.  And He came as was promised by the prophets of old.  But this time…..He’s coming back and so I feel very connected to the season of Advent.  I feel it’s so relevant, even now. And that’s the joy and hope that fill my heart and make it leap for joy in this Christmas season.
Not that I don’t love the lights, and the decor and the real Christmas tree and getting together with family and friends.  I DO love the glitz and the glamour.  And the feel good Christmas movies.  The snow softly falling. The cinnamon and hot chocolate.  The baking.  The delectable food. The nostalgia.  The games and the puzzles.  The skating and the skiing.  And Jesus DID say occupy until I come so I’m just doing what He told me.  I am living my best life while I wait for His return. and SO….you will find me sitting by the fireplace reading a book or watching a Hallmark movie and sipping hot chocolate or eggnog.  You may see me at a Christmas party or two having the time of my life.  (It doesn’t take much these days…lol).  I will be at church singing all the carols and also singing in my car with the music turned up full blast. I will go on a tour of the lights.  I think the lights are my favorite thing.  As I drive by large evergreens all lit up for Christmas and laden with snow,  I whisper an unheard thank you to whomever did those.  And also to the homes that really put in an effort to light up Christmas…thank you. I get giddy just driving by. I’ve been known to wrap every single little trinket or gift in a large separate box just so I can wrap things and deck them out.    Christmas morning over here looks like an embarrassment of riches but when all is said and done, there’s not much to show for it.  I do love buying a great gift tho.  Love to hear those oohs and ahs.
So for the next month I am going to be celebrating Christmas as best as I know how.  Every single day.  Grateful to be in a position to be a giver and hopefully spreading joy and cheer to everyone I come in contact with.
God Bless Us Everyone.

I ran out of Baking power

After some deep and prolonged soul searching, I have come to the decision to close my at home baking business.  I will not be doing my usual Christmas baking (cookie boxes) or valentines offerings.  I will not be doing random cakes and cookies for special occasions or butter tarts or pies.  I also will not be sewing for others or altering clothes or whatever.  I will not be decorating anything outside of the home. These skills or talents have served me well over the years of being laid off work (multiple times) and through the pandemic.  For over 40 years I have been using my creative skills as a side hustle in all sorts of way.

As most of you that know me are aware, my health has taken a hit over the last few years and one of the important things I need to do to take care of my health is to eliminate as much stress as possible.  Turns out my body and mind are not that good at dealing with stress.  Even good stress.  The body doesn’t know the difference between good and bad stress.  SO….in the interests of being in the best possible health at this stage of my life I am on a quest to eliminate stress.  There are many stresses in life we can’t just toss out the window…we have to learn to deal with them but this creative side hustle is definitely something I am going to learn to live without.

I am looking forward to not having to invent transport boxes for cakes.  Not having to run around and find the best price on butter.  Its gotten SO expensive.  Last Christmas I had to navigate a sugar shortage.  Or burning a batch of butter tarts and having to make a new batch to make up the numbers.  Waiting at home for clients to pick up baking.  Keep the dog from going ballistic when the doorbells rings. Staying up too late and ending up with a cold.  I don’t seem to have the patience to perfect my icing consistency  so cookies look their best.  Yes I have loved being tucked away in my cozy kitchen in December,  in the middle of snowstorm,  while others are out navigating traffic,  baking up a storm inside but I guess I just don’t appreciate that like I used to.  Now I actually have an outside job – that is perfect for me – and that’s about all I want to take on these days.

Thank you for all your support and orders when I got on the gram with my pictures and advertising  Every order made me jump for joy.   The confidence you had in me to bake and deliver a quality product. I have loved being a part of your Christmases and special occasions. But its time for this baker to move on.  I will still bake I just won’t be baking more than fits in my freezer and the belly’s of my people.

The Storm before the Calm

July 15 and ‘the greatest outdoor show on earth’ is over. I mean is it?  The greatest outdoor show on earth??  I sort of think the Rocky Mountains are the greatest outdoor show on earth.  Or the northern lights.  Or the place where two oceans meet. Or an African safari.  Anyway, it’s over for another year. And it seems a sort of calm peacefulness has settled over the city.  I’m  glad they do it in the first half of July so we can have the rest of the summer to …summer.  And enjoy a slower energy.

We were a little more involved in the Stampede this year because my daughter was part of a floral event that was held on the grounds.  So that meant driving down to the stampede grounds several times to set up and design, to replenish and to tear down.  I accompanied her to one of the replenishments and to the tear down.  Plus we had family in the city during Stampede so we went to the grandstand show one evening. When in Rome…. I hadn’t been for many years and it was surprisingly…fun?  Interesting?    Just being in that Stampede culture, that totally isn’t me in any way, was an experience. The heart attack food.  The scary, weird rides.  The country music (which I have always considered to be an oxymoron). The chuckwagon races were entertaining. The floral displays added a touch of class to the whole thing. The grandstand show…so, so.  The drone show and the fireworks were the piece de resistance. And the mood on the exhibition grounds after midnight is a total different vibe than it is during the day. With everything winding down and no line ups. Lights flashing and faint music still playing in the background.  Carnival music.

But the entire city is affected by this great outdoor show.  The whole city is abuzz with pancake breakfasts (we went to a couple – it’s a great way to feed your house guests breakfast), and country music, and cowboy boots and the most outlandish outfits that people think are justified just because it’s stampede.  The traffic is crazier. The tourists more plentiful. The smell of greasy food, beer, horse manure and exhaust permeate the air.

By the time the stampede is over, I sort of feel like – cowboys go home.  I want to enjoy the good old summertime in peace. I realize I’m probably a minority.   Most people love the stampede…I think. But I just want good old ‘English tea in the afternoon in the garden’ type of peace.  That’s more my thing.  Or to wake up by a large body of water and watch the ripples and waves.  To scavenger for sea shells.  To eat delicate food at quaint outdoor cafes.  To find a park and read a book while I listen to the birds and leaves swaying in the wind.  To stroll along a river and breathe in some fresh air.  To be intoxicated with the scent of fresh flowers growing along my walking path.  A drive to the mountains.  That kind of thing.  And so that begins for me…today.  A slower pace of life and energy.  For the rest of the summer.